Three Principles Living

Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD

Mind and Consciousness and Thought

Second Thoughts?

We can't help the past popping into our minds. It is impossible to know what might awaken a memory— someone who looks like your grade school bully, a sentimental song on the radio, a pattern of light and shade, a faded photograph, a sudden loud sound, a gory TV scene, a patterned dishtowel. When our mind wanders towards anything, we might immediately bring up a momentary memory. A lot of people who struggle with past abuse, or traumatic events, or remorse over something, or anger at someone, or sadness from a...

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The Fight We Don’t Need to Win

A frequent plea I hear from clients is some version of this: "Why can't I fight off these thoughts? I don't want this stuff on my mind. I try and try, but I can't drive the thoughts away! It's exhausting." The underlying difficulty for these clients is that they are shadow-boxing an illusion. But since it is their own illusion, it appears real to them. The harder they fight it, the more vivid it appears. In absolute innocence, they are holding thoughts in place that would have simply passed through their...

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The Whimsy of Form

Watch a video of an octopus. Study enlarged photographs of insects. Look closely at leaves and flowers. Observe fish swim in an aquarium. Examine bird plumage. Turn anywhere in the natural world and you are fascinated by unexpected beauty. Beauty is the whimsy of universal energy taking form. Now consider what passes through your mind. The inchoate energy of thinking puts forth forms, infinitely variable forms, from the horrifying to the inspired, from the silly to the profound, from the discouraging to the enlightening. Just as the earth is alive with...

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A Simple Gift

"So I'm making up my whole life? It's that simple? It's up to me how it turns out?" A young client asked me that recently after I explained to her how we create thought that we experience as our reality, in that moment. Yes, it is that simple. Yet within that simplicity are so many surprising gifts: Nothing and no one can make us sad, mad or happy. We can only do that for ourselves. Nothing and no one can put limits on us. We can only do that to ourselves. Nothing and no...

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When Nothing is Wrong

This simple thing occurred to me the other day: It really doesn't matter what is happening. It only matters how we hold and use our thoughts about it. For more than 30 years, I have understood that we can find peace of mind "regardless of circumstances," and I thought I understood fully what that meant. But suddenly, the other day, it meant much more. I realized, all circumstances exist only within our own minds. All "circumstances" are our thoughts. Everything comes down to a core simplicity: Circumstances — in my life, in...

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Love: It’s Not What You Think

Love is the stillness between thoughts. Love is the safe space of wisdom. Love is the clear light of creativity. Love is the gentle attendant of fearlessness. Love is the greatest gift of humanity. Love generates the ideas that transform us and bring us peace. Love recedes in the face of fear, but it does not disappear. It lodges deep in our hearts and faithfully awaits the moment of silence into which it will re-emerge. When we open ourselves for even a moment to that silence, love never sleeps through it. Love shines into our minds and...

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