Three Principles Living

Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD

mental-health Tag

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Do you ever get upset?

"I never see you upset. Do you ever get upset?" At least once or twice a week, someone asks me that question, as if they are expecting that someone who truly understood how the mind works must never be anything but calm and happy. So sorry, that's not how it works. There is no way to anticipate what might come into our minds, and sometimes, the thoughts we bring to our minds carry with them upset, angry, frustrated, negative feelings. Of course, I get upset, just like every other human being...

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Cure Seriousness! Lighten Up!

Avoid being afflicted with Seriousness. It's debilitating. It brings people down. It hurts. It takes all the fun out of life as long as you have it. It can linger a long time. It can lead to health complications. It's much worse than the flu. I talked to a client recently who clearly manifested that he had suffered from Seriousness for more than 40 years. He had the medical and life history to prove it. He cried a lot in the beginning of our session. His story included abusive parents, painful childhood, two abusive marriages;...

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Is It Easy to Be Happy?

Recently I saw a new client who sobbed at the outset, "I don't see how I will ever be happy again!" An hour later, as she left, she was laughing. "I've sure been a big drama queen with all that serious thinking, haven't I?" she said. How does a shift like that happen? In the simplest terms, it is the natural outcome of what Principles practitioners do that is new to treatment. We don't take unhappiness seriously. We point people to the true, constant, unfailing, spiritual source of human happiness that nothing can touch....

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Joy to the World!

I wish Joy to the world, not only during this holiday season, but always. Joy is the deeply beautiful feeling that connects us to all of life, beyond our differences and before our fears. It is innate to all people, and readily accessible, but, like a rainbow peeking through storm clouds, easily obscured or overlooked. It is born of quietude, a mind at peace, immersed in the present. We fall into joy naturally. The feeling wells up from within our spirit as we simply allow our minds to come to rest. Regardless of...

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Unmasking the memory terrorist

Many of the new clients I work with who have been in long-term psychological treatment are weary and discouraged. No matter how often and how long they have brought memories to mind, fought them, re-considered them, analyzed them, belittled them, re-enacted them, deconstructed them, reframed them, journaled them -- the memories are still there. So they feel as though they are doomed to a life struggle against traumatic events from their past. They can't change them, and they can't defeat them, so they are stuck in an exhausting standoff,  locked in perpetual battle against an enemy...

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“What’s wrong with me?”

Since I have begun seeing clients one-on-one as a Mental Health Mentor, the most frequent questions they ask in the first session are: "What's wrong with me? How did  this happen? Why can't  anyone explain to me what happened to my mind?" For the most part, they've had a lot of therapy. And they've been given diagnoses. But  diagnoses do not explain. Diagnoses describe and label symptom sets. What's eating at people are the WHY? questions. Why can't I just be OK again? How did I go wrong? How do people get chemical...

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