Three Principles Living

Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD

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Do you ever get upset?

"I never see you upset. Do you ever get upset?" At least once or twice a week, someone asks me that question, as if they are expecting that someone who truly understood how the mind works must never be anything but calm and happy. So sorry, that's not how it works. There is no way to anticipate what might come into our minds, and sometimes, the thoughts we bring to our minds carry with them upset, angry, frustrated, negative feelings. Of course, I get upset, just like every other human being...

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The Depression Fairy is Imaginary

Despite the protests of several of my clients recently, I must insist  there is no Depression Fairy who randomly visits us and sprinkles dreadful thoughts in our minds. Oh, I know she seems very real, and powerful, and quick to alight out of nowhere. But she is imaginary, as are her close friends, like the Anxiety Fairy and the Anger Fairy. As much as that might be good news, for many people who have struggled with Depression for decades, it is initially distressing news.  What's wrong, then, if there's no invisible outside force...

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Wisdom is not an opinion

How soon we abandon the lessons of fairy tales, scripture, children's books! How readily we disregard the common sense of life experience! How innocently we fall into the maelstrom of insecurity, then panic as we start to drown in our own fear! As quickly as we fall, however, we can arise from the nightmare and find the innate resiliency we need to restore balance, wisdom and hope. This is the promise of a true understanding of how our minds work: we live in the experience of the reality we create with...

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Ask the deeper questions

A flood of questions follows horrifying actions like the Boston Marathon bombing. Who is to blame? How did it happen? Why? Could we have stopped it? Can we keep it from happening again? We analyze each incident with an excruciatingly complex compilation of details. We hope for answers from the accumulation of minutiae. Shouldn't we also ask the deeper questions, the questions that would generalize specific events to insights about the universal nature of fury, hatred, alienation, dissociation in human beings? Have we taken seriously the critical need to truly understand...

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Enough said

One of the effects of quick and easy electronic communication is that anyone can say anything to thousands, if not tens of thousands, of people with a few quick clicks and a press of the "send" button, without even a moment's pause. We've lost the value of allowing time and space for reflection to frame and produce our comments. Who asks themselves these questions any more: Do I need to say this? Is this valuable? Is this the best way to say it? Is this what I really want to say?...

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Incremental is infinite, too

Reading all the social media posts from people who are newly discovering the Principles at work behind life, I've been noticing how easily we become disappointed in ourselves, dropping quickly from gratitude for an insight to discouragement that we're not where we want to be. What we forget is that gratitude and contentment nourish the rich soil in which further insights blossom; discouragement is the drought that turns the soil to dust where insights cannot flourish. It is rare, though never impossible, that an individual experiences what we call an epiphany,...

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