Three Principles Living

Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD

Consciousness

Smarter? or Wiser?

I've been involved in many situations where leaders were smarter than most of the people they were trying to influence, but were oblivious to the fact they were no wiser. That doesn't  work out very well. Being "the smartest person in the room" creates an opportunity for the leader to find the humility that enters hand-in-hand with wisdom. First of all, wisdom is the great equalizer.  All human beings have access to wisdom; no one person is innately wiser than another. It's always possible to sort people out by "smartness", but...

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Seriously?

Consider this story: Not long ago, I was meeting with a person who started our conversation in tears, feeling hopeless because of a family situation that was outside of her control, but involved her children in a way that she could not think about without more tears and more pain. As she tried to explain it to me in gasps between the sobs, she grasped her head in her hands and said, "This is so serious. Sometimes I just want to kill myself. I can't do anything about it." Before I...

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The truth about “reality” (It’s what you think)

Principles are true whether we like them or not, whether we agree with them or not, whether we even know about them or not. Principles are the essential logic of the universe. As we discover them, things that were confusing suddenly make sense. Think of little children before they have recognized the principle of addition. If you ask a toddler who is playing with some friends how many cookies you should bring in so he and each of his friends can have one, the answer is likely to be something like...

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Squandering Our Power

Across the developed world, environmentalists have gotten our attention about power. We use energy efficient light bulbs, appliances and devices. We turn things off. We adjust our home thermometers not to waste power when and where no one needs to be warm or cool. We care about gas mileage. We recycle. We are increasingly committed to conserve  and use the power we have wisely in every aspect of our lives...

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Ask the deeper questions

A flood of questions follows horrifying actions like the Boston Marathon bombing. Who is to blame? How did it happen? Why? Could we have stopped it? Can we keep it from happening again? We analyze each incident with an excruciatingly complex compilation of details. We hope for answers from the accumulation of minutiae. Shouldn't we also ask the deeper questions, the questions that would generalize specific events to insights about the universal nature of fury, hatred, alienation, dissociation in human beings? Have we taken seriously the critical need to truly understand...

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Getting over “it”

Often people talk about distressing events in catastrophic terms. "I don't know how anyone will ever get over that!" Or, "It ruined my life; I'll never get over it." Or, "It was so awful, I'm not surprised he/she can't get over it." We talk as though there are "its" in life that track us and yap at our heels like indefatigable terriers after a fox. Once the moment of something is over, though, the only "it" is a memory. And what is a memory? It is a thought carried forward through...

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