Three Principles Living

Judith A. Sedgeman, EdD

Security

Smarter? or Wiser?

I've been involved in many situations where leaders were smarter than most of the people they were trying to influence, but were oblivious to the fact they were no wiser. That doesn't  work out very well. Being "the smartest person in the room" creates an opportunity for the leader to find the humility that enters hand-in-hand with wisdom. First of all, wisdom is the great equalizer.  All human beings have access to wisdom; no one person is innately wiser than another. It's always possible to sort people out by "smartness", but...

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Wisdom is not an opinion

How soon we abandon the lessons of fairy tales, scripture, children's books! How readily we disregard the common sense of life experience! How innocently we fall into the maelstrom of insecurity, then panic as we start to drown in our own fear! As quickly as we fall, however, we can arise from the nightmare and find the innate resiliency we need to restore balance, wisdom and hope. This is the promise of a true understanding of how our minds work: we live in the experience of the reality we create with...

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Wisely using our power to…

In every waking moment of every day, every one of us is using our incredible power of thought to heal -- or not. That sounds black and white, considering the infinitude of thoughts that come to mind. But, when you step back and look, moment-to-moment, life is black and white. We are either moving in the direction of  calmer, wiser,  more insightful thinking, or moving in the direction of anxious, habitual, less functional thinking. Our guidance system is not the content of our thoughts, but the feeling state we are...

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How I met Leon

I don't tell this story often because, for people who aren't used to trusting the power of a calm state of mind, it is at best weird and at worst frightening. But it's true, and it happened to me in New York City in the early '90's, when my daughter was a student at New York University, living in a tiny apartment not large enough for me to stay with her. When I visited, I stayed at the Washington Square Park Hotel, several blocks from her. One night, while I was...

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Ask the deeper questions

A flood of questions follows horrifying actions like the Boston Marathon bombing. Who is to blame? How did it happen? Why? Could we have stopped it? Can we keep it from happening again? We analyze each incident with an excruciatingly complex compilation of details. We hope for answers from the accumulation of minutiae. Shouldn't we also ask the deeper questions, the questions that would generalize specific events to insights about the universal nature of fury, hatred, alienation, dissociation in human beings? Have we taken seriously the critical need to truly understand...

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Life and Death

[caption id="attachment_853" align="alignleft" width="217"] Anthony F. Arpaia, my father, 1898-1978[/caption] My Father and I used to take long walks around Washington, D.C., spending hours talking about life. On one of our last such walks, just before we moved away from D.C. and I got ready to leave for college, never to live at home again, my father said, "We measure out our lives with celebrations. First, you go to your friends' weddings, then to baby showers, then to your friends' children's graduations and weddings, then to retirement parties, and then your...

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